The pastor of one America’s largest churches is peeling back the covers on topics that might make some Christians squirm.Andy Stanley, pastor of the 30,000 member North Point Ministries, addresses a range of issues from human sexuality to pornography in his latest book, The New Rules for Love, Sex, and Dating.Two thirds of online daters—66%—tell us that they have gone on a date with someone they met through a dating site or dating app.That is a substantial increase from the 43% of online daters who had actually progressed to the date stage when we first asked this question in 2005.Despite the wealth of digital tools that allow people to search for potential partners, and even as one-in-ten Americans are now using one of the many online dating platforms, the vast majority of relationships still begin offline.Even among Americans who have been with their spouse or partner for five years or less, fully 88% say that they met their partner offline–without the help of a dating site. One-third of people who have used online dating have never actually gone on a date with someone they met on these sites.
To be sure, many people remain puzzled that someone would want to find a romantic partner online – 23% of Americans agree with the statement that “people who use online dating sites are desperate” – but in general it is much more culturally acceptable than it was a decade ago.
I hope the primary takeaway of these teachings is that: [tweetable]people should focus on becoming someone instead of finding someone.[/tweetable] RNS: You say that “you are sexually compatible with far more people than you’re relationally compatible with.” What are you getting at?
AS: When it comes to romance, people put a premium on the romantic part as if that is the litmus.
Online dating use among 55- to 64-year-olds has also risen substantially since the last Pew Research Center survey on the topic.
Today, 12% of 55- to 64-year-olds report ever using an online dating site or mobile dating app versus only 6% in 2013.